Why You Should Practice Gratitude
The devil is in the detail. I can roll nine consecutive pows followed by a lonely skull. What do I remember? The skull. Well, it seems I am not alone. Research shows that, unfortunately, we are all wired to focus on the negative. Obviously, being all stressed up and rancorous will not help us become better coaches. So, how can we fight our brain’s negative bias? According to many researches, gratitude can help.
Knowing this, I attempted a new approach. Before every game, I thanked a dice roll that helped shape my team. I said something along the lines: « I’d like to thank that +AG roll on my catcher ». All was going well until some day an opponent answered: « Taureau, this +AG roll results from a touchdown your catcher scored in our previous game. But to score, your star Blitzer had to clear him the way to the end zone. If you really cared, you would also thank him and all the other players that helped crystallize that touchdown. Without their contribution, your catcher would not have leveled up. » And I thought, « Hmm. That’s interesting. »
The gratitude quest
Now, I’m a blogger, and for my blog, I like to go on quests. Intellectual ones, at least. So I accepted my opponent’s quest. I began rewinding time and first thanked my opponent who did not mark my Blitzer. I then thanked my Blitzer who rolled a defender stumbles. But he could not have done his job without the Tackle skill. So I thanked the mundane skill roll he made and thanked my conservative skill choice. And then, as far as memory goes, I thanked the many dice rolls and coaching decisions that led to my Blitzer cracking bones and leveling up. Long story short, I even ended up thanking all my opponents that forged me into the proficient coach I have become.
I came to realize that my catcher’s +AG roll, like so much else in this game, requires the combined results of thousands over thousands of dice rolls, coaching decisions and gaming experiences. Pows or skulls, sixes or snakes, reroll or not, push or hold, risk or draw, you name it. Just the thought of it was overwhelming, but also wonderful. It reminded me of the astounding interconnectedness of all Blood Bowl things.
Show your opponent some gratitude
I thanked my opponent for his great quest idea. His name is Skullcrusher, and he is one of the most upbeat coaches you will ever meet. Big smiler, enthusiastic gamer. He is bigger than life. But even for Skullcrusher, being a coach is hard. And that is because he is encountering people in a very critical state. You all know what it is: competitiveness.
Skullcrusher told me the hardest part is when coaches don’t even treat him like a human being. They treat him like an artificial intelligence. So, they roll pows and armors without even taking their eyes off the pitch. And while he is saying this, I realize … I did that. I sometimes am one of those a**holes. And at that moment, I vowed to take some time each game to make eye contact with my opponent. Because it is a reminder that I am dealing with a human being who, like every other coach, has his ups and lows. And that little moment of connection is so important to our humanity and happiness.
Be grateful for the pow. And the push. And the skull.
Skullcrusher then returned me the favor by sharing how to roll a three dice block like a pro. And it is a complex ritual that ends up spraying dice all over the place. I then tried his method and got triple skulls. But in the moment, I was inspired to really let the skulls sit on the pitch and meditate about the cruelty but also the sweetness of the moment. This idea of savoring is so important to gratitude. Psychologists say gratitude is about taking a moment and holding on to it as long as possible. And slowing down time. So that your game does not go by in one big blur, as it often does.
Some coaches are afraid that being grateful will make them complacent. On the contrary, research shows that gratitude makes you actively want to share. Sharing is a very, very important source of growth for any coach. And I experienced this personally. I mean, I am still mostly a selfish bastard like all minotaurs should be. But being grateful inspired me to see what I could do to help coaches become better. It got me involved. I am definitely not expecting a Bloodlitzer award, but it is a little something. And it is why I encourage you to practice gratitude. Because it is a game changer.